Category: Relationship article


Case no. 2

Insensitive work relationship

 

Strike me out when someone told me to shut up my last laugh. I always have the same jokes with my other boss as he said. It was not on his jokes, but I also shared with his jokes. My other boss and I were like brothers. We were in closer gap of age of three decades and two years. Hmm…that is interesting to explain the age. It is 32 years. Sometimes I’ve called it the three decades and two years in alphabetical words.

 

My other boss’s age was three months older than me. He was born on November. But I was born in February. We were like something that cannot break. Somehow I always look to his side of his jokes. And I’ve rarely get sermons from him. But until he called my name, that was my first to hear from him. And he literally called my attention. Because I was having my behavior a human error. I didn’t cope up with this problem. But somehow I lost my focus on my work.

 

Work relationship comparing from teachers and some other staff were highly sophisticated to me. Among them have rarely had the same comparisons. I hate the comparisons. When you say comparisons, that’s something to do with judging the cover of your book. This is insane but true. And I lost on the way where I can find another job.

 

Maybe after going to Canada and resuming if I still have my work on my way back, maybe if they can still accept me. Building rapport with parents as my boss said was good. But nonetheless, I have to do improving my performance. Somehow at the back of my head, it was there on my head but I couldn’t think one single word to pop out to my head. Well, normally I really don’t to boast or brag about this. It’s the matter of feelings that count. I don’t need many friends just to help my happiness level up. Or something I would know to make it surely done correctly.

 

The co-teachers and other staff as well really stabbed my back as well. I won’t call the names to be named here in my articles. It was simply secured and simply annoyed. I don’t know why. I was there already. Almost two months and barely four weeks already before coming to three months on my work, I’ve started really to like my job but until they called my name that I was stubborn to do this and to do that. I wasn’t. Somehow my mind came to burst if I was having alzeimer’s disease. Then I’ve asked my other boss who apparently I really could talk to and said that I also can inherit the genetically disease losing memory one to another. If I may correct or not, just leave a comment at the end of this article.

 

Somehow along the way, my other boss seemingly was doing good for me. He really treated me like a brother. Maybe if I came along before on their work, they would know better the side of all my problems between love life, family issues, relative issues, financial issues to some never ending issues that I won’t name it any longer.

 

Crazy as I was, or half away through the universe if I was unavailable seeking for a new clue to solve. Because I am not as a perfect human as anybody does. I may be not as intelligent person, or I may be not as a perfect writer but I could be the one who could tell you if you really need a friend. Then I will be there to help and to rescue you. Because the percentage of the school needs a little comfort towards me.

 

I am not a superstitious person as well believing something that is not related in life. What I really believe is the creator above, Jesus Christ, the saints and the guardian angels as well. On other side of superstitious, I rarely find interesting in folklore stories sometimes that rarely seen the impossible into possible times. It is compared to fantasy and imaginative characters that you would know to come up the best intentions at the back of your head. Silly as I am thinking at the back of my head knowing not it’s all going back.

 

I may have my condition as mosaic trisomy 21 Down syndrome. But I am really considering to accept who I am really to become a role model someday. But I never get an intention to grab an opportunity becoming as a teacher. What my real dreams are that I am focus to get it one by one if I really come closer. I am not into rush but in a slow, classic and fashion way to become uneasy to cope with. Or maybe I won’t think at the back of my head that I would become.

 

Normally at the end of the day, if I smile, I’m always smiling. But I nod my head in other way, then my emotions and my pride will eat me. Then it would become a neutral smile, not as possible to become a negative thoughts. Or some ways will become getting closer to my aspiration dreams. I may be not grab the biggest dream, but I am always dreaming to get one by one step closer at a time.

 

Possible? At the back of your head, dream bigger. My boss is quite not seemingly happy at the end of the day today. Good luck to my life ahead if I may get a possible wish may come in my way.

 

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Something it come up to me and it’s not about the relationship or friendship. It’s how you will make your understanding a mutual that makes a horrible decision. My boss and I were in the conversation again. If I made it to make right, sometimes the good things made for a bad purpose. Well, it wasn’t my decision to make it right. All my faults fell into a trap again. He said it to me if I was doing my performance very well. It wasn’t well or in a perfect condition. Sometimes I rated myself somewhere in okay situation when I’ve decided to make it okay and it’s not good.

 

Good or bad habits of my attitudes sometimes varies in some situation. Well in purpose, I don’t make it intentionally. It wasn’t bad after all or I didn’t do in a better way. It’s either you make it good or bad win-win situations. My boss and I didn’t make it to arguments. I was bitter. I was lost. My emotions ate me up and so my pride was. I don’t know how or why. Sometimes when some people really scold me, my emotions are really pretty low. In the middle of situations, I didn’t manage to make it properly in accordingly. But in fact, I fell into a trap. It was a mere of my problem anyway.

 

I don’t know how to make it good. But working with somebody to please you sometimes is hard to give it up easily or retire at the end of the day. It’s a bad habit for me. I also can’t please anybody who is really giving some their puppy eyes to make it bad. Some of them is making some worse. They are treating me like someone I really don’t like. What I aim to do is a better performance.

 

Sometimes, my performance is really damn low. When I say damn low, my delayed reactions is something coming up of my dilemma situations. It’s really hard to cope up with my problems. Or better say to understand, it’s really hard also to please some of your companions in your comfort zone.

 

Speaking of comfort zone, I’ll admit in this situation. I have a bad mouth. Sometimes I really talk a lot. I don’t know how or when to shut up when the conversation is starting to build up longer. And myself is a bit don’t-know-what-to-do. Or maybe I can’t talk all the time. Was it me I’m having my difficulties? Or was it somebody I’m having problems with? Or was it something else that really occurred in some situation? Some it says it’s not my fault. It’s about my conscience that talks a lot.

 

I may have my purpose to live and that’s how I will be entertaining with good positive ways and signs to them. I don’t entertain negative thoughts at the back of my head thinking honestly a wrong negative thoughts. Maybe it is somewhere I am doing wrong, worse or worst of them all. Hmm…I can’t clearly think at the back of my head when to build a wall or cover with your ears where somebody is talking a longer conversations. Maybe it’s not my intuition to hear some feedbacks. I may have something don’t like, or maybe I am really boasting about. Sometimes I am having hard time from my dilemmas where to get rid of it. Or maybe not.

 

Should I move to a proper place? Or should I properly to act like a normal one? What do you think? Or should I to think at the back of my head as nothing it really feels like? I lost my answers. Help me to solve this kind of problems.

 

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Occupied feelings

Feelings

Feelings

What is occupied feelings all about?

 

Occupied feelings means a relationship within inside and outside of your partner where you really fall in love or to be with relationship. Some experts said it was a pseudo-relationship and others said it was a mutual understanding. And few of them may knew it as a short-relationship feelings.

 

Occupied feelings means also two partners were having in a messed up feelings or some what it called as complicated relationship as of the facebook status was.

 

Whenever you encounter in the society, some of many or some of few have already bygone relationships. It was not literally whatever you really wanted as if you were “on” relationship. Being someone you have relationship is not considering as a girlfriend or boyfriend as your partner. So I won’t talk about the love issues. I am talking about the long-term relationship.

 

Short-term relationship means two partners were having a love affair in a short while in about of one week or one month or even one day. It was something you will call as a fling. While the long-term relationship means two partners were having a serious love affair whether they were belonged each other in a long time. It could be one year or more. Some in the society I’ve had experienced, I have friends. Others were having already in 10 years relationship which they worked it out since high school. Others have met in college, so they were considering 8, 7 or 5 years relationship status.

 

And others were continuously engaged, eventually they were getting married so soon as they were finally accepted in both parties in a man and a woman’s family.

 

A big and messed relationship sometimes called as a complicated relationship. Thus everyone said it all, and nothing to worry about it because they were both working on their problems. I have relatives and sometimes I don’t want to be part of their problem. It was because their problem they were talking about.

 

A fling relationship sometimes occurred in two partners were a little less of the day relationship or a week relationship. I may never know it but it happens that I listen to the love problems of two partners. And some of the love doctors have nothing to do with the relationship. Or somewhat called as an astronomy studying about the zodiac signs and the chinese new year. It happens to everyone, including the so-called small world of planet earth.

 

And some in the society calls the two partners were not yet met, thus it called as a blind date. Blind dates were happen in two partners have didn’t know each other so they will call for their friends. Both of their friends seek and wanted them in a private way. And other in the society called up as a blind date system as they put a blind date program in any country. It was a familiar to me. Even in the movies, it could happen to this event.

 

Back to the subject of occupied feelings, two partners have the status of an “on relationship.” I may never have experience about the relationship because I still don’t girlfriend even at my age of early 30’s. To tell you the truth honestly, occupied feelings means a lot of people in the society. And people says it has nothing to worry about because it was already the relationship they are talking about.

 

Just let me clear about this situation, I happen to be a writer, a-not-so-good writer but I really love to write. When you feel the love inside your feelings, you occupy the space at the back of your mind thinking what to do next step you should allow your move to your partner. And maybe the reason you don’t allow to happen this because you are afraid to open your status to be have in relationship. And others in Filipino words have said it all, it was the “torpe.” Torpe means you don’t allow your feelings to shout if all from your lungs to say to express to the partner you really want to say it all. But to you the truth, Filipinos sometimes really don’t know how to admit their feelings about to their partner. Especially that I am a male and none other that I’ve express, because I am still slow to say it to my partner.

 

What do I do with my occupied feelings? Simple. I sometimes write it down in the note. In my past experiences when I was during in high school, I have had once to love a girl. Although I didn’t know how to express my feelings, other of my friends have said that I have to move on my own, or else someone will occupy the status of a partner’s feelings.

 

Well, not everything you will know about me. Except for one last experience I have had encountered during my college years. It was a pseudo-relationship. It means when we were having studying in the school, we were in the relationship. But whenever it went outside, we were not in the relationship. So I was keeping my feet to stand of my feelings to my partner. But later on my life when I was really hard to have relationship on that girl, I finally have to stop to fall for the girl’s heart. That was my experiences Maybe it wasn’t the right girl for me, or maybe I wasn’t to occupy my feelings towards to my partner.

 

Occupied feelings in your heart sometimes makes regrets. And regrets is hard to break in our body system. It all flows down to our nervous system as if they really want it to connect to our nerves. Nerves in our feelings sometimes generates our occupied feelings to the partner. And love sometimes takes the advantage of how you feel the partner’s hormones. Maybe some of you really didn’t get it. And some of you really understand me well.

 

I am not a good expert but I can tell what the occupied feelings in your heart and in your mind. Sometimes your heart wins over to your mind. But when it put to the test of mind over heart, it has something to do with your bad system in your body.

 

WRITER’S NOTES:

 

This may not the end of the article yet. Honestly, I say it all about the occupied feelings towards any kind of relationship. And sometimes I have to tell you what’s in my mind. This article have a long way to think what to do with this article. It really gave me a long time how I will end up a good article of Occupied Feelings. And this article was taken out from my brainstorming ideas three weeks ago. I guess it is taking too long to write about this. I may not to think clear, but sometimes brainstorming on your own makes the hardest you can receive and to achieve on your own.

 

I have no girlfriends to the date before until now. I am already on my early 30’s. And also that I have being having with mosaic Down syndrome. My intelligence is not yet finished as if I still don’t know how to computer. Maybe it is around an average of 81 to 90 out of 100 percentage. I am not intelligent as any of the honors and summa cum laude. To think clearly, I was being honored from my high school as an outstanding improved student throughout from elementary to high school because I have mosaic Down syndrome. Being as a part in the society, you may never know about me. I have been from experiences from bullying, flirting, into the relationship, college years and even up to the present where I finally learned how to accept my condition was. Keeping not accepting on your condition made you even worse as if you were keeping a sin in a long time.

 

As up to this date, I will tell you about anything I could tell from my studio name. And also what it really meant that I have to take as a writer. I love to write but I am not as a good writer.

Commitment

Commitment is always the word for the meaning of “the committing to oneself.” But did you know the word of commitment? It came from 1611, commit + ment meaning “the committing to oneself” deriving to “an obligation” in 1864.

 

What is commitment? It also defines to relationship, courtship, advocate or continuing to serve. It is how important what goes at the back of your head. Let me define you a commitment in various meanings.

Commitment

Commitment

Relationship in commitment:

 

1. Sometimes when one male is engage into the conversation, your feelings must overflow to the opposite sex, the female part. But when you create some a commitment, it may lead to another level of relationship. Meaning it may define if you want to have a marriage or a long-term relationship plan with your partner.

 

2. One young teenage male and one young female doesn’t know the term of commitment. Sometimes, the females has hormones in their early ages, knowing to know the youth wants to get in commitment. But in the same way, teenagers are sometimes different point views of life. Whether it’s a male or a female.

 

3. When you are going to have commitment to a partner, you usually ask for a date first. Then at the back of your head, you ask her or him out for another dates. In the successful events, sometimes you risk your life ending your relationship to another level. That’s marriage.

 

Commit + ment sometimes for a different version of meaning, an obligation. You oblige a partner just to court you or to have relationship with him or her. Well for me, I haven’t oblige partner yet. I don’t know how to feel my feelings to express for her. As far as I know, I have had two dozen and a half crushes (and still counting) since I was huge admiring her during my elementary days. Many of us have occasional feelings. But if you can see the world is multiplying an amount of seven billion in population. Commitment is also deriving in other terms to help unfortunate people. In other words, an advocate, comes a third meaning of commitment.

Shake for commitment

Shake for commitment

You commit terms to help people in your community. The community sometimes seeks for a help from you. And the obliged politicians in the local government wants to improve the social needs like medicine, food, shelter and a house to live. In the local government where you can see the busy people in the city proper, politicians and officials are orderly committing to help people in their needs. When you need a job, sometimes a local government sector gives commitment for the people’s needs to give back their financial problems. Sometimes I do have a feeling to help, but none of my actions are not clearly to help. Because in myself, why can’t I help myself first before others? Maybe so or maybe not.

 

Okay, let’s define commitment. What other synonyms do you want to know about commitment? Is there anything I can discuss about. Just let me know, comment in my article. So I can improve more of future articles to be written.

I was a bit confused what girls wanted for the guys have to know about them. Normally if I like the girl, I would do anything just to see her. But if the money buys for happiness, sometimes I think twice. Because it won’t give me an inch for the girl’s heart. Yes, I’ve been heartbroken not once, not twice, not thrice but many times already. What they didn’t know about me? It’s because they have to know me better. When I look girl’s intentions in her face, I always think at the back of my head that if she would like me better. I would tell her about my love life and if I have a girlfriend before. To tell you honestly, it was completely zero.

 

Why? For some reasons why, I don’t know them why they don’t like me getting to know me better.

 

Maybe it wasn’t so bad that I fell in love every time she dumped me. And at the end of the day, you can’t win the girl’s heart all the time. Are they looking for the guy’s standards? Maybe yes. Or maybe not. Yes, sometimes girls are looking for their standards to meet to their guidelines.

 

Number one rule on them: Tall. I’m 5 feet and 3 inches 1/2. Well I am not that taller for their standard guidelines. Maybe so, I won’t accept the guidelines on them. It’s definitely not a guideline, it’s their wants.

 

Number two rule on them: Dark. Hmm…I wasn’t sure they are looking for a guy who is white or dark. Sometimes they prefer darker because on them are white chicks. Well, it’s not also a guideline, it’s their wants.

 

And number three rule on them: Handsome. Everyone on the earth are all handsomest men. Maybe they are speaking the guidelines again. It’s absolutely not a guideline, it’s their wants also.

 

But I have the list if their guidelines are on their list on mine: tall, dark, handsome, funny, down-to-earth, friendly, not jealous and adventurous

 

Let me give you a straight answer. When girls are seriously looking for a guy’s intentions, sometimes they have intentionally giving the guys having a hard time to think. Of course, I am afraid that’s true. For some reasons why, girls are not all the same. We, men, are their wants when the times in their age needs a little attention to get married. Why are you looking for a guy who looks like Sam Milby, Piolo Pascual, Taylor Lautner, Rob Pattinson or Sam Concepcion perhaps? Are they looking for a guy who have abs on their body? Hmm…that’s a question already.

 

I have no girlfriend, or even a fling throughout my life. It is because every time I think that way, girls have already their standards to make guidelines. What for? I am looking for girl who is aware about the guy’s dark secrets. Maybe I do have dark secrets. But I won’t telling anything dark secrets here in the article. Because it is more personal you are asking already.

 

Let me give you a recap in my past love life. I have one crush. She was on the 5th grade. But it wasn’t intentionally I have had a crush on her. I’ve admired her because of her beauty. Then on the sixth grade, I have had two crushes. One was celebrity crush and one was on sixth grade. I will tell you later the story. Because this article is worth to know the girl’s intentions. The first celebrity crush I have had was none other than, Antoinette Taus. She was attending and studying in OB Montessori together with Aiza Seguerra. I was about seeing Antoinette Taus in various roles of her life before she was still in ABS-CBN before transferring to GMA-7.

 

Having crushes in your life is partly growing up in your life whether you are still a child, a teenager or an adult already. Because that’s what all about the lessons in love life. (Well, I will discuss that later also here in my article.) Yes, I’ve been counting my crushes until college life. Then after the college life, it’s already countless. Because I am already admiring for who is inspiring me to continue improving my life better. That is why I am still continuing to keep me better whenever I have love life from time to time.

 

Here’s a continuation in my love life where I stop in my elementary life. In seventh grade, I already have had one crush that added in my list. She was the fourth. And I won’t mentioning her name. She might be reading my article although I’ve been hiding this for my life. It is one of the love conflicts in my life on her until today. Because you never know some of my lyrics I’ve been making are still on her name. And I have the short stories that it’s also on her name. That is why it might be have love conflicts. Well of course, I still have her updated picture. Definitely I won’t mentioning her name or give out some initials. No, I won’t.

 

Then after elementary life comes high school life. Of course, everyone loves high school life. When one person remembered anything it was special, it would be definitely a high school life. Well not everybody I know they have the same. I have had two crushes in my freshman year. But to tell you the truth honestly, I lost the paper that have their names on my love life later when we transferred for the second time. Although I was fuming in mad, I didn’t know what to do. But that’s life, then you have to go on your life. Then at the sophomore year, I still have added two or three crushes. I think, maybe that’s two. I really can’t remembered after I lost the paper. All of their names in my previous crushes have the same names but in different surnames. During my sophomore year, that was when I found out I have had being having with Down syndrome. (I also have to discuss later here also part of this article.) Around when I was entering junior year, that was when my year was blooming in love. I still didn’t get to know why do I have blooming years. Does the guys count on that blooming years? Maybe so. Or maybe not. Added in my junior year were three crushes. One of them was also a celebrity crush. And I might be hurting so much. So I won’t bother to mention her anyway. She was also part in Tabing Ilog‘s set.

 

During my junior year, that was when I’ve started to write my first poem dated back on December 10, 1998, Thursday afternoon. That my very first poem marked my first in-love making in writing. It became one of my interests instantly. When you are making one, you will definitely falling in love writing anything under the sun, a limitless. Hmm…that junior year was also marking my blooming year because of the junior prom. My very first prom made it clearly to remember. And my first partner before was none other than my younger auntie. She was one year younger than me. When I was dating her in my junior prom, on the start I was definitely have had a crush on her. But it didn’t give a hint because that was my relative. So it doesn’t count anyway. Sorry, it was a false alarm. Then at fourth year, the graduating year in high school, made clearly at the back of my head. I was definitely looking for a partner before the senior prom was started on February. Then at the first love at sight made instantly to a freshman year girl. But it failed me just to impress her. Because later, that I’ve found out that she was having a boyfriend at her young age. Was that a puppy love or romance love? Maybe so, maybe not.

 

It was my first time that I was making my move to send her numerous poems and sonnets on my part. Every time I passed by on their classroom, I was clearly thinking of her. Asking of her classmates, they were making excuses just to see her. And sometimes, they were humiliating me because of her. Why was I falling in love on her? She wasn’t that intelligent. It was because later I’ve found out she was just the same as me. Sleeping sometimes inside the classroom was the humiliating moment of your life. During my high school years, some of them were younger than me. That was why I was putting them on my list. It was actually passing a record on one dozen already. But I won’t bother that anymore.

 

After I’ve had graduating Montessori Integrated School of Antipolo where I attended the school throughout my eleven years. The preschool years was not included on that although the owner of preschool, elementary and high school were only one. And I was thankful of them because I learned so much from my school. When I was starting attending a culinary course in Center for Culinary Arts, I became effectively an instant friendlier. Well I moved one batch after I’ve failed on the first subject. Then on the second batch that I’ve joined, it was two celebrity friends that I have had. It was Diego Castro and Danica Sotto. It was when they were both graduated together in 2005. Diego was Rico Yan‘s first cousin to Tita Sita‘s side. Then at the same time, I also have had a cousin where I found out they were both studying in Miriam College before during their high school days. It was also Rico Yan’s cousin to his father. It finally concluded they were both following my instincts. Maybe my intuition to become an actor was one of the signs I was failed to accomplish in my college life. Maybe so, or maybe not.

 

Then at the back of my head, I’ve gained too many crushes during on my first batch of year 2000, on second batch together with Diego and Danica, on third batch, then finally to fourth batch where I was finally graduating in colors in 2003. Honestly on my way out before college, there was also a sign. It was Agot Isidro‘s cousin who I became friends with him. One of my intuition wanting in my dreams also failed along the road I’ve been through. College life was better than high school life. But sadly, I have had to say it again goodbye to my college the last time I saw them again. It was a tough one.

 

During my college years in CCA, it was my hardest part of my life. Becoming depressed and frustrated at the same time made me clearly I was failing the moment in school. When you loved someone you dearly wanted to become boyfriend or girlfriend, that was one of my hardest lessons I’ve ever had. It was when I loved somebody. My batch mates sometimes played you for a while, it was a mutual understanding love. Sometimes we were on when we were on college grounds. When we were not on college grounds, we’re not. It was hurting my feelings and my personality. There was once in my life that I ran away from home just to see her for the last time in Taytay. But I failed along the road of my personal love life.

 

The lessons in your love life have sometimes judgmental life. It was judging you to improve your lifestyle without them. Moving on was one of the hardest part as everyone did it the same I did. Not everyone that I know. Few of them I guessed. Here comes the segment where I’ve to discuss about the lessons in love life. Let me give you a recap from a nutshell in my life.

 

Seven lessons in love life:

 

1. Never put yourself to anyone you really love her badly. Yes, sometimes I did it the same it goes in your life.

 

2. Never agree in your conscience to fall in love on her. It was actually a bad move when I did it the same way. But if you are stronger enough, then you have to win her heart over her mind. Sometimes, some girls also have weaknesses on the softer side.

 

3. Never put yourself to make her move to fall for you. It was a win-win situation. It really happen for the guys who girls are looking for the guy’s heart to soften their feelings.

 

4. Never get in a trap when feelings are emotionally stressing you out. I’ve been through this already. And it really hurts me badly. As I’ve been passed on this, then I did getting stronger without her.

 

5. Never go to sleep when you are thinking her everyday in reality. It is still happening to me all the time. Whenever I am not involve thinking of her, it become instantly when I am thinking of her. Then at the end of the day, we become inseparable when I am thinking of her. And I am not the type of a guy who won’t go eating all day long or won’t sleeping all night long. That’s a bad habit already.

 

6. Don’t go to relationship if you are not ready. Keeping myself out in relationship sometimes makes me stronger in and out of my personality. Whenever I don’t have experiences, I still have sixth sense, the intuition.

 

And 7. Don’t go to have fling with her. Sometimes mutual understanding does it count on fling relationship. But on my list, she wasn’t not that serious after all. Because of my college friends played their part if we were in and out of the college campus. It was really hurt me that badly. It was a month when we were together. There was once a one group when you were together on a laboratory work. The laboratory work was where you were working on your responsibility field to do who was on charge on cutting on ingredients, who was cooking and who was taking on charge plating your meal.

 

Being having with Down syndrome was one of my hardest challenges of my life. Because this girl I was talking about in my college life, she knew about me. Because I was too much like a girl’s attitude. Speaking one of those in markets was one becoming one of my problems. An unstoppable talking you were talking about made you look like a girl. So I learned and moved on my life as well. An issue being having with Down syndrome was one of my problems before. Keeping denying about yourself having with that special needs made you having a mortal sin in your life. Then later on my life, I learned the fact that I have to move on and accept the conditions.

 

At the end of the article, this is where I have to end my article goes on. Because on the next articles soon I will release, there will be more precise and briefly story you will read about me.

40 LESSONS FOR FINDING STRENGTH IN HARD TIMES – from my friend Angelica Sibayan on Tuesday, July 17, 2012

 

  1. You are not what happened to you in the past. – No matter how chaotic the past has been, the future is a clean, fresh, wide open slate. You are not your past habits. You are not your past failures. You are not how others have at one time treated you. You are only who you think you are right now in this moment. You are only what you do right now in this moment.
  2. Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t. – You are who you are and you have what you have, right now. And it can’t be that bad, because otherwise you wouldn’t be able to read this. The important thing is simply to find one POSITIVE thought that inspires and helps you move forward. Hold on to it strongly, and focus on it. You may feel like you don’t have much, or anything at all, but you have your mind to inspire you. And that’s really all you need to start moving forward again. Read the How of Happiness.
  3. Struggling with problems is a natural part of growing. – Part of living and growing up is experiencing unexpected troubles in life. People lose jobs, get sick and sometimes die in car accidents. When you are younger, and things are going pretty well, this harsh reality can be hard to visualize. The smartest and often times hardest, thing we can do in these kind of situations is to be tempered in our reactions. To want to scream obscenities, but to wiser and more disciplined than that. To remember that emotional rage only makes matters worse. And to remember that tragedies are rarely as bad as they seem, and even when they are, they give us an opportunity to grow stronger.
  4. It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. – You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again. And a smile doesn’t always mean a person is happy. Sometimes it simply means they are strong enough to face their problems.
  5. Life is fragile, sudden and shorter than it often seems. – There may be not a tomorrow – not for everyone. Right now, someone on Earth is planning for tomorrow without realizing they are going to die today. This is sad but true. Se spend your time wisely today and pause long enough to appreciate it. Every moment you get is a gift. Don’t waste time by dwelling on unhappy things. Spend it on things that move in the direction you want to go.
  6. You will fail sometimes. – The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. So get out there and try! Either you succeed or you learn a vital lesson. Win – Win.
  7. You have capacity to create your own happiness. – Feelings change, people change, and times keeps rolling. You can hold onto past mistakes or you can create your own happiness. A smile is a choice, not a miracle. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy. True happiness comes from within.
  8. Emotionally separate yourself from your problems. – You are far greater than your problems. You are living, breathing human being who is infinitely more complex than all of your individual problems added up together. And that means you’re more powerful than them – you have together. And that means you’re more powerful than them – you have the ability to change them, and to change the way you feel about them.
  9. Don’t make a problem bigger than it is. – You should never let one dark cloud cover the entire sky. The sun is always shining on some part of your life. Sometimes you just have to forget how you feel, remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward.
  10. Everything that happens is a life lesson. – Everyone you meet, everything you encounter, etc. They are all part of the learning experience we call ‘life.’ Never forget to acknowledge the lesson, especially when things don’t go your way. If you don’t get a job that you wanted or a relationship doesn’t work, it only means something better is out there waiting. And the lesson you just learned is the first step towards it.
  11. View every challenge as an educational assignment. – Ask yourself: “What is this situation meant to teach me?” Every situation in our lives has a lesson to teach us. Some of these lessons include: To become stronger. To communicate more clearly. To trust your instincts. To express your love. To forgive. To know when to let it go. To try something new.
  12. Things change, but the sun always rises the next day. – The bad news: nothing is permanent. The good news: nothing is permanent.
  13. Giving up and moving on are two very different things. – There comes a point when you get tired of chasing everyone and trying to fix everything, but it’s not giving up, and it’s not the end. It’s a new beginning. It’s realizing, finally that you don’t need certain people and things and the drama they bring.
  14. Distance yourself from negative people. – Every time you subtract negative from your life you make room for more positive. Life is too short to spend time with people you suck the happiness out of you. Let go of negative people, for they are the greatest destroyers of self confidence and self-esteem. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you.
  15. Perfect relationships don’t exist. – There is no such thing as a perfect and ideal relationship. It is how two people deal with the imperfections of a relationship that make it a deal. Read The Road Less Traveled.
  16. You must love yourself too. – One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel the matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?
  17. Don’t let others make decisions for you. – Sometimes you just have to live not caring what they think of you, shake off the drama, and prove to YOURSELF that you’re better than they think you are.
  18. Resentment hurts you, not them. – Always forgive people and move on, even if they never ask for your forgiveness. Don’t do if for them – do it for you. Grudges are a waste of happiness. Get that unnecessary stress out of your life right now.
  19. You’re not alone. Everyone has problems. – To lose sleep worrying about a friend. To have trouble picking yourself up after someone lets you down. To feel like less because someone didn’t love you enough to stay. To be afraid to try something new for fear you’ll fail. None of this means you’re dysfunctional or crazy. It means you’re human, and that you need a little time to right yourself. You are not alone. No matter how embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your own situation, there are others out there experiencing the same emotions. When you hear yourself say, “I am all alone,” it is your mind trying to sell you a lie.
  20. You still have a lot to be thankful for. – Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of brave people who are overcoming it. Sometimes you have to forget what is gone, appreciate what still remains, and look forward to what is coming next. Henry David Thoreau said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night. You didn’t go to sleep outside. You had a choice what clothes to wear this morning. You hardly broke a sweat today. You didn’t spend a minute in fear. You have access to clean drinking water. You have access to medical care. You have access to the Internet. You can read. Some might say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.
  21. Consciously nurture your inner hope. – A loss, a worry, an illness, a dream crushed – no matter how deep your hurt or how high your aspirations, do yourself a favor and pause at least once a day, place your hands over your heart and say aloud, “Hope lives here.”
  22. It’s better to be hurt by the truth, than comforted by a lie. – You must see things how they are instead of how you hoped, wished, or expected them to be. It’s always better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie.
  23. It’s hard to tell exactly how close you are to success. – Connecting the dots going forward is nearly impossible, but when you look backward it always makes perfect sense. Success is often closer than it seems, and arrives suddenly, when least expect it.
  24. Not getting what you want can be a blessing. – Not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of good luck, because it forces you reevaluate things, opening new doors of opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked.
  25. Laughter is the best medicine for stress. –  Laugh at yourself often. Find the humor in whatever situation you’re in. Optimism is a happiness magnet. if you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you.
  26. Mistakes are important to make. – We have all made mistakes. We have let people take advantage of us, and we have accepted way less than we deserve. But if you think about it, we have learned a lot from our bad choices, and even though there are some things we can never recover and people who will never be sorry, we now know better for next time. We now have more power to shape our future. Remember, failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the choice to get you back up. Get back up! Often times good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
  27. Worrying is literally a waste of energy. – Worry will not drain tomorrow of its troubles, it will drain you of your strength today. Read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
  28. Even when it’s hard to move, take small steps forward. – Especially in trying times, it is important to continuously push yourself forward. Because momentum is everything! As long as you keep the momentum positive – even if you’re moving at a snail’s pace – you will eventually get to the finish line. So celebrate every step you take today, no matter how small they are. Because every step will lead you farther away from where you were yesterday and closer to where you wan to be tomorrow. Be it a better life or a dream we long to realize, we reach our destinations by taking many, many small steps in the same direction, one at a time.
  29. There will always be people who dislike you. – You can’t be everything to everyone. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks differently. So concentrate on doing what you know in your heart is right. What others think and say about you isn’t all that important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.
  30. You are better off without some people you though you needed. – The sad truth is, there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you will eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great friends you can always count on.
  31. You are ONLY competing against yourself. – When you catch yourself comparing yourself to a colleague, neighbor, friend, or someone famous, stop! Realize that you are different, with different strengths – strengths these other people don’t possess. Take a moment to reflect on all the awesome abilities you have and to be grateful for all the good things in your life.
  32. You can’t control everything that happens to you. – But you can control how you react to things. Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects – whether you’re happy or not depends greatly on which aspects you focus on. For instance: Did you catch a head cold? At least it’s only a temporary virus and nothing life- threatening. Did you lose a basketball game? Thankfully you got to spend the afternoon with friends doing something fun and healthy. Did your stock market savings go down? It will bounce back in the long-term. And besides, it’s great that you’ve been diligent and fortunate people enough to save a nest egg of savings when many people are barely making ends meet. You get the idea.
  33. Life is NOT easy. – If you expect it to be, you will be perpetually disappoint yourself. Achieving anything worthwhile in like takes effort. So start every morning ready to run farther than you did yesterday and fight harder than you ever have before. Above all, make sure you properly align your efforts with your goals. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.
  34. Your future is spotless. – Regardless of how filthy your past has been, your future is still spotless. Don’t start your day with the broken pieces of yesterday. Don’t look back unless it’s a good view. Every day is a fresh start. Each day is a new beginning. Every morning we wake up is the first day of the res of our life. One of the very best ways to get beyond past troubles is to concentrate all of your attention and effort on doing something that your future self will thank you for.
  35. You are not trapped; you just need to re-learn a few things. – We all have doubts that make us feel trapped at times. If you doubt your ability to make a life-altering decision, to take on a new chapter in your life, or to fend for yourself after years of being overly-fostered, consider this: Surely if a bird with healthy wings is locked in a cage long enough, she will doubt her ability to fly. You still have your wings, but your muscles are weak. Train them and stretch them slowly. Give yourself a time. You’ll be flying again soon.
  36. Everything in life is two-sided. – There is good reason why we can’t expect to feel pleasure without ever feeling pain; joy without ever feeling sorrow; confident without ever feeling fear; calm without ever feeling restless; hope without ever feeling despair: There is no such thing as a one-sided coin in life, with which one can buy a pain-free, trouble-free existence.
  37. You always have a choice. – No matter what, there are always at least two options. If you can’t physically change something, you can change the way you think about it. You can sit in the dark, or you can find your inner light and discover powerful pieces of yourself you never knew existed. You can view a crisis as an invitation to learn something new, viewing the shake-up in your outer world as an enlightening opportunity to wake-up your inner world.
  38. Let others in when you’re in a dark place. – No, they won’t be always be able to put you out of the dark place you’re in, but the light that spills in when they enter will at least show you which way the door is.
  39. If you ask negative questions, you will get negative answers. – There are no positive answers to, “Why me?” “Why didn’t I?” “What if?” etc. Would you allow someone else to ask you the demoralizing questions you sometimes ask yourself? I doubt it. So stop and swap them for questions that push you in a positive direction. For instance, “What have I learned from this experience?” “What do I have control over?” “What can I do right now to move forward?
  40. The end is a new beginning. – Say to yourself: “Dear past, thank you for all the life lessons you have taught me. Dear Future, I am ready now!” Because a great beginning always occurs at the point you thought would be the end of everything.

Consult first to your parents, relatives or your closest friends when you are seeking to choose whether she or he likes you most.

 

Think mostly about his or her background. Check if he or she is doing anything bad to his or her friends. Sometimes when I am choosing love, I sometimes disapprove myself how to get your love back or to get into the relationship as well. Some of my relatives goes into relationship. But some of them didn’t want to go relationship as they are proving they want to be single as well. But I can’t deny it.

 

People have freedom to love what they want, but when you are abusing you love someone. You end up hurting her or him. For my experiences, I went overboard already thinking that if she loves me. Love sometimes takes time in advantage how you really love this person. Seek for your parents first if they can prove you can love him / her back.

 

Conversation tips:

– Think first before you open the conversation. Give a look in to her or his eyes if she or he really thinks about you.

– When engaging to a fair conversation, sometimes it ends up a fight or arguing with your friend.

– Bring some of your friends with you if she or he thinks friends are welcome to aboard into conversation as well.

– If it still doesn’t prove that much, sometimes open up another topic that is related in your subject.

– When it’s time to end in a friendly conversation, shake up his or her hands. Or give a little hug. Do not attempt to steal kiss. Just a friendly little hug, that’s all.

 

Dating:

– If it is your first date, don’t come up with an excuse. It may sometimes take advantage that your partner will know your excuse.

– Pick and find the place that is comfortable for you. Do not go alone if she or he doesn’t pick you up.

– Do not go to overcrowded area. This might be a trick that the audience sometimes amusing you when he / she allows to go in a relationship.

 

Partner:

– Blind dating is sometimes serious when you are picking up a new date in the town as well. (Seriously, I’ve never done that before.)

– If he or she allows you to go to the mall, allow him or her to go window shopping with you.

– If he or she thinks about you, give him or her a wide smile just because you really love her.

– Love her or his time what she or he is doing mostly.

– When visiting to your love, don’t go yet to his or her place. Text him or her if he or she is available to visit. (Sometimes you end spying of him / her and you end up breaking in a relationship.)

 

I don’t know these tips are better for you than me. If that is the case, sometimes I really need to think what in her mind though I never know about it. Reading of his or her thoughts from his or her eyes sometimes I really the person most. I’m not psychic. But eyes are pretty to read when you are thinking.

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