Living being as Down syndrome X: Happiness

Part X

Happiness defines as an obsolete or a good fortune that brings happy everywhere you go; or you make your fulfillment as a happiness life.

 

What defines you as a happy person? Is it really good to have receiving or is it having a good fortune you have right now? If so, all things you receive is about yourself. Not everyone has, because you are doing the right path you are making for the achievements you make. People sometimes don’t know how happiness define to themselves. Because they are not making well in their work, or in relationship, or sometimes in the school where you can’t satisfy for your assignments, or some choices you really want to do can’t make it yourself not properly. All things are bound to have what you are doing both in real and not real.

 

For somehow reasons, I’ve always made myself as a wrong decisions. Because it wasn’t for my dreams not working properly. If I make it a goal in my life, I would probably doing it for a good purpose and a good reason why are you helping by yourself. If you love yourself, don’t help yourself 100%. Instead make yourself a list of good deeds to make it happen. All things are not made for you. Because it won’t work if also your emotions will be mixing along with your life. God knows what we are doing right now. But on the other side of fortunate happens to you, it will make the benefits for you and for your perspective life.

 

Let me give you 6 quote stories what it is at the back of my head right now:

 

Quote #1:

“People always has a choice, but sometimes they won’t achieve until they learn their lessons.” ~quoted from IMS Ltre. (ItsMikkiStudio Literature)

 

There are several occasions that you can’t achieve it. Time will come and time will learn your lessons. What I did properly in most of my time in the past was dealing with myself. When I first knew about my condition about Mosaic Down syndrome, I couldn’t tell even if it was real or not. I firstly doubted about myself, my skills and my life also. My fears would it be didn’t make it happen so fast. Instead, it lasted for me 14 years in denial stage I’ve been experienced.

 

To expect the least expectations was accepting my condition and it happened even if you really liked your life even more better than the past. Because it is what you really feels better for yourself and not for the others. People will love you if you share your blessings and success of your life through experimenting yourself having with a good purpose in your life. Right now, I’m enjoying most of my time today because I’ve admitting myself having with this condition. That’s what it feels like to be happiness. And I learned my lessons from my experiences in my life.

 

Quote #2:

“You can’t choose love bigger things between work or relationship if you find yourself happiness. The lessons perhaps will make you stronger to be happy.” ~quoted from IMS Ltre. (ItsMikkiStudio Literature)

 

This was the biggest opportunity happen so fast to me last year and this was the moment I’ve been learned through all challenges that I’ve had to accept it. After I’ve been in relationship last year, that was during May 2013. Eventually my girlfriend and I didn’t work our relationship. Perhaps I wasn’t ready for a commitment. If I’m ready for a commitment, then time will wait for purposely willing to wait God will permit me. I went to my fourth job as an assistant teacher in the school. But the teaching profession wasn’t my profession. My profession is something you really love to deal with your life. The thing was I went through the challenges. I’ve been graduated in culinary course before and took for a granted because it was the only choice to be able feeling you were really graduate from college. It took me about 8 years what was really my profession looks like. I guessed what it was really matters to me that I found the right time of a good job that I’ve had today.

 

Work of course was a priority for me. And then when the relationship encounters with me, it won’t work for me if I will be able to help myself. So I chose the work over relationship. I told my friend who was a special education teacher that I wasn’t able to look for a relationship with her, instead I made a deal that we were be friends forever. Because from the start, she had a suitors who were able to escorting her. Then I’ve asked myself if I was ready. But no, I choose happiness for my work and love all the children I can help. Love will wait for me instead.

 

Quote #3:

“Time is not the goal for you to have defeating the deadlines even you want to have to get on time ahead of you. Instead, happiness will find yourself to learn yourself and it will help you to become stronger.” ~quoted from IMS Ltre. (ItsMikkiStudio Literature)

 

When you are defeating the deadlines, will it help you more happier? Is it worth to have feeling that’s all you always wanted? My experiences were different. I was also been in a hurry state at the back of my head last year. When I really wanted to make it feeling encountering yourself, it would be making yourself a different occasion. The first resolution for me was whether to decide to pursue to keep more healthier for me. And I’ve decided to make it minimizing my weight last year. I wasn’t making yet to get in time. But I’ve asked myself that I really can do it after all.

 

From the time I was in 180 pounds, it was beginning for me to get weighing down all 30 excess pounds off from me. I wasn’t in hurry state. What you are doing for yourself is taking a product to make it yourself to minimize your weight so fast in one or two months instead. But in my state of my condition, I went all through dieting and long-term already. I went my weight down before my sister’s wedding came. And when I went to a vacation in Toronto. All of my relatives were shocked seeing me in a good condition. I was looking good. 30 pounds will learn yourself about dieting, discipline and an action good time plan for a months.

 

Quote #4:

“You love the most of your time doing nothing. Instead you give all the love for your special child.” ~quoted from IMS Ltre. (ItsMikkiStudio Literature)

 

This was not my story. It was yours this time. I’ve been hearing a lot of this stories from the parents in the school where I was working. One parent came to ask me and said, “did you feel the love they are giving for you?” Of course I was feeling all the love. But the time came to me when my mom didn’t giving me all things for me. It won’t come for me, instead I learned my lessons that my mom did her love to love me after all. Happiness is a highest state in your life when you feel you are loved and feel the blessings keep coming in for you if you love other people.

 

Quote #5:

“The eight days of relationship was keeping me down when the time I was in love. But the state of feeling in love wasn’t keeping for me to last for my happiness.” ~quoted from IMS Ltre. (ItsMikkiStudio Literature)

 

This was my biggest lessons that I’ve had encountering this to me last year. When I’ve had in love with her, it was okay. She asked me for having my hands to her. Boy, I looked like a girl having a long hair. But it doesn’t matter who the person was really in love that time. Then I said it was okay for having a relationship with her. But the idea I brought to my attention when my parents came from a incentive vacation trip in Europe, they found out that I’ve had a relationship with a girl. But they weren’t ready for me getting married. Of course, I might be get a lot of heartaches to come that was she said to me. Eight days of relationship was my lessons to have with her. I’ve eventually ask her not to have with her anymore, instead I’ve to give up with her. She had this a personality when it comes to a money issues.

 

Quote #6:

“When happiness defines you the most, it defines your personality the most and don’t make it to change of yourself.” ~quoted from IMS Ltre. (ItsMikkiStudio Literature)

 

This happens to me the most of my time and to anybody else also. This traits of yours will find you easily. But the problems you are experiencing won’t be able to make you happy. It was because you always excused yourself you were happy for you to change your traits all the time. Having to change your trait to someone else doesn’t prove you are happy. Instead, don’t let the other people feel coming from your personality test. Make a habit yourself praying everyday. Don’t excuse yourself that you can’t change. Change your attitude, change your lifestyle, change your work environment or take a vacation. This will make you find yourself an inner peace. Happiness will find you where you can explore things you want for yourself. And I am glad today that my friends are still contacting with me until now. That is what happiness tells me everyday not to excuse yourself.

 

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A new hobby: Photo message maker

When I bought my first android phone, I thought at the back of my head thinking what I should do with my android phone. It was my first phone that I bought. I’ve had four phones already in the past. There were Nokia 6110, Nokia 3530, Nokia 3120 Classic, Myphone Dual Sim and the last was the Cherry Mobile Burst. But I am planning to buy another new phone in the future preferably iPhone I want to buy.

 

What was my newest hobby that I was always do? When I’ve downloaded the photogrid from the playstore.com in my android phone, it became a popular for me although I was a lover making some stuff in Adobe Photoshop. When you said something you really loved, you really adored at your side. Then at the back of my head, I was thinking more creating photo messages. Because I never made it before when I was doing something in Photoshop before.

 

My first photo message I’ve created was this:

 

Photo message 1

 

“Down syndrome is not a disease, it’s Awesome!” At first when I created the first photo message, the views from my facebook page became a hit. It was then something I knew from my heart I should for my life. Then at the back of my head, I was thinking creating more of this to become a book in the future. When I thought of this, it will become something you really like for your book what it is best all about.

 

The second photo message:

 

Photo message 2

 

“You are not alone, because I’m like you…and today is Down syndrome awareness month.” But this photo message wasn’t used for my facebook page. I have to use for the Philippines’ Down syndrome awareness month this coming February 2014.

 

The third photo message:

 

Photo message 3

 

“Life borrows us, and it’s worth to be happy. Smile everyday!” The figure from my face was showing how I was happy for my life was. Being having with Down syndrome for me was not a hindrance to me anymore. And at first, my point of views came at the right direction already. The world is giving me freely thinking of this at the back of my head. And I’ve been wondered how God was grateful to me after all.

 

The fourth photo message:

 

Photo message 4

 

“Each day I smile, each time I am happy, I’m always there by your side, I’m always have to smile for you.” This photo message delivered the happiness quote a big time. Why I posted of this photo message? It simply gives me a wonderful message everyday at the moment I have in my life.

 

This four photo messages delivered nailing from at the back of my head when I suggested myself what I could do for my facebook page. And to think of it, it never crossed at the back of my head that it will help easing out of my problems here. But to tell you the truth, I am even more happy because of this year of 2014 will come knocking at my doors what I should do to have opening a new book soon. Hopefully I can do manage something that I have to create more photo messages.

 

And the other four photo messages I’ve created:

 

Photo message 5

 

“Life is beautiful, so don’t waste it, because life is good…and the hardest time has difficult to understand…with or without disability, you are still beautiful inside and out.” The fifth photo message was creating a new different diversion for the disabilities who have been using their life without fulfilling their mission. But the reality here in the Philippines, it is one of the common practices that these people should realize how disabilities would allow working in a beautiful work environment. Like I do as an assistant teacher, therefore it won’t do much anything to do if there’s an action some to fulfill in the future.

 

Photo message 6

 

“Chromosomes are extra effort, but it’s extra care, long patience, inevitable laughter, gives you a long smile…and it’s worth to have a special someone…your special heart, a special child with special needs. Smile!” Oh, yes! This sixth photo message delivered a beautiful message. Although I’m not familiar to other abnormalities yet, but in the future if God permits me to study more, then I would study more about other abnormalities. Nick Vujicic has said, “if your disability is a hindrance, why would you live normally as any other else. It won’t matter if you act on your own and be an optimistic thinker.” He would say a thousand stories in his concert although I haven’t some of the words from his motivational conferences. Maybe I should do the right thing at the back of my head also.

 

Photo message 7

 

“My life without you…even in a darkest corners can change into brightest. I can’t help it thinking about you. I can manage, but there’s a possibility to change of what I am and to be frankly, I am stronger today that I am happier throughout with or without single love.” @Single_quotes After breaking smoothly with my ex-girlfriend last 16th of May, I’ve decided if I still have time, then I would do this even without her already at the back of my head anymore. She was the one who pushed me for having a great and wonderful job I have today. To think of it, my ex-girlfriend and I became closer naturally because we have one common thought, it was Rico Yan that was at the back of our heads. And I’ve been normally doing what I love the most I can do for my life.

 

Photo message 8

 

“Down syndrome is not only as a genetically disorder, but they are positive and optimistic thinkers. They live fullest with wide smiles and live individual long life.” This was my eighth photo message I’ve created so far. And the message shows how people with Down syndrome creates more happiness. But sometimes like I do, I don’t think the word of stress or negative thoughts. It was a taboo already in our definition or in our dictionary terms. I don’t know of this but lately I’ve been thinking at the back of my head that I should do this each and every day.

 

And the last photo message I’ve created was for myself:

 

The Author 3 copy

 

I don’t know much of myself in the past childhood memories. The only I’ve remembered when asking from my elementary friends, they were the ones who kept telling stories what I really did some naughty events in my life back then. But I admitted that I am really a happiest person. Because of them, I won’t be here today. And besides who would thought thinking at the back of my head that I would be successful today. All the while of this years, it is constantly changing my nature from bad things to good things. And the good intentions are creating more happiness memories and it will give exciting for me in the coming years to come. The public should know that I am aware what is happening to our society but not such said in religion or to any cases, it would be one goal I have: change the world in a good place where disability should act to do happiness in your life. It has something to do with our lives today.

 

One book I should create about: Inspirational quotes and art of literary quotes. You should be follow me here in my studio articles. And read among the articles I’ve create even each now and then. I should carry my own feet what life is telling me about that this life is beautiful even I have a disability. And in spite of that, I should know what is good from bad.

 

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Fruitful of Happiness page 4

Page Four

My new family

 

My happiness sometimes exists today when you are having a good community and a good circle of friends. Well mostly in my days are exactly common of my happiness days. My boss and I usually share the same idea of happiness terms.

 

It was started when I joined the Stand and Walk Therapy Center as an assistant teacher. My salary was basic commodity in my life. It was not necessarily in life that you have had this or that. You have to be a simple guy to walk in the community where you can start to work.

 

First day or maybe my first week of my work was dramatically changing me as well. My routine was changing me from being as a couch potato to work-acholic. And the best start I’ve had started there was they really accepted who I was to be. The teachers changed me as well. As they knew my condition, my routine became part of my life. I knew it was changing me that well.

 

But things have changed when someone was to leave and someone was to enter. It was not necessarily to say this. But sometimes the eagerness inside of you wants to say something you really want it to say. My secrets are limited. I’ve overcome being as a secretive. But knowing myself, I also limit my secrets from no one can ever know about something not as necessarily as well.

 

One month I have lasted that long, my performance level didn’t change. I still managed to catch time to sleep and managed to use of my routine levels. From being facebook addict I was before, being as an online gamer before and being as a console gamer before literally changed my life as well. I was almost changing myself to a better future. My attitude before changed me as well now today. From being self-confessed addicted gamer, I am seriously change myself and my routine today.

 

I am no longer an addicted gamer today, and plus that I am no longer a facebook user anymore. I can update myself from time to time. But not as always when I am glue to my computer, I always put myself not sleeping entirely in the night. I have a work today plus with my loading business. My boss said to me that I have a potential where I can contribute something for the school important. It is something I find rarely in my life – a perfect new family.

 

What’s a new family by the way? That’s a good question. And my answer is my work environment. I am really glad that I have family on my back: my two bosses, the secretary and the co-teachers as well. I am considering myself as a lucky person. Don’t get me wrong if I am not right. So tell me if I am really wrong.

 

My new family is my work environment. Things are changing me as well. And my perspective in my life is also changing me as well. If I continue this as well, my routine in my life today should not considering to change me as well. Because I want some my work to have my loyal in my back whenever I have problems. I can be open-minded but sometimes that I have to be shut up also. Because sometimes I am really that talkative either also in my life.

 

I have mosaic trisomy 21 Down syndrome. It means that I have partly becoming with disability doesn’t mean that I have to stop there. I am a blessing. And blessing should use in the proper use in life. And so I use it properly. When you have disability, sometimes you care of yourself, your family and your pet also. You love anything that considers the most of your time in your life.

 

What is my happiness? I could tell you that is because of my work. And I love my work. The work environment, the circle of good friends and the day routine find myself in a better way of living life. I rarely get a chance a good set of friends. And I share my life with good people including the student’s parents where I get a chance to talk with. Being with somebody else you really to talk to open-minded somehow change your vision in your life.

 

It is because I really want to get a chance to be a better person. And I really need to change myself also as a part of your own reality. And reality sometimes chooses you to find your own path of fate. The fate chooses you and choose to work what is best for you. And so I am consider to be part of my life.

 

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Not a good relationship

Maybe I have had a girlfriend far from now. It wasn’t that good enough. My both parents didn’t like her. I might be leaving her soon also. What’s the big deal with not-a-good-relationship? In fact, this was first time I have had a girlfriend in my life. In fact, she was the only one who fell in love to me. And yes, I was still innocent and lack of experiences towards relationships.

 

I’ve had been watching numerous love stories in my life when I was still teenager. In fact, this relationship was not a healthy. I’ve been told in my relatives, my elementary friends, my high school teacher, my yaya (maid who used to taking care me when I was still a kid) and my so-called relationship status in my facebook.

 

There was no facebook in this universe when I came in the world. There was only a black disc moving music box that runs from the past. And of course, the introduction of the computer was drastically slowing improving from 1980’s. But in 1990’s, the whole wide world was still luring the way of a little improvements of the computer. But from this generation of nowadays, we have a computer addiction towards in facebook, twitter, youtube or anything that applies in the computer. I called it, “2000 computer era.”

 

When I was still in high school, I didn’t know how to use the computers until someone in the class taught me well how to operate the computer. In our home, my elder sister said that I don’t have to touch the computer unless she wanted to teach me. I was impatient that time when I was still a kid. In my innocence of my looks sometimes draw an attention towards my family. But the relationship have might ending so soon. Because my girlfriend was really in love to me. But I didn’t feel anything about her.

 

What’s the score? In fact, I lost everything. I lost my focus towards my career because of her. I lost my interests in my writings because of her. But what’s the meaning of this? Is this the end of my relationship of her?

 

Ho-hum, I am still not looking good for this relationship. I want to end this relationship so soon. Because in reality, when you don’t have money and no job, you’re endless creating a new family. Residing in a shanty homes with poor quality materials you are living, you are in the degraded world of full poor opportunities. But to tell you the truth, I wasn’t ready for creating my own family. I am still eyeing for my career, my hopeful dreams and my aspirations in my life.

 

When will I be falling in love again? The answers will reveal soon. Life sometimes exists with reality bites. In fact, you live in your world of happiness. But the truth behind, you are living without hopeful reasons why are living in a shanty homes.

Human stages

Happy Walk is starting soon on February 24, 13 days remaining to be exact. And I’m bringing to another social active of my site. And hopefully something will change soon. Let me explain about this. About a year ago, it was so hard to find an organization that was exactly can suit for me. If you haven’t notice what you are reading, it’s just me. I have curious case and it wasn’t so serious about it. But according in life, we are also humans. And humans are sometimes special. And that being having special is what we called born is disability. I have Down syndrome as I have saying this all over time I want it to say. I am bored for sometimes I can’t do anything really special. But being having special sometimes takes me to another level. And that level of course is where I am belong. I’m not belong some people really don’t care about us. But you know me better not to be judging about us.

 

I am born in this world not knowing more about me. It is about the people and the special people with special needs. Special children and special adults with special needs sometimes takes time to heal around the society and to accept the fact we are also humans. And dearly, I am beginning to understand the word, the life. Life has different stages. And stages we are speaking about is the human evolution. Let me give you examples:

 

1. Baby / toddlers stage

When babies are born in this world, we decide to put them with care, understand, love and sincerity. Caring them is one we look challenges as you are being as a parent. Understand them is one we have to know them better as a baby or a toddler.

 

In this world, I am born in the world not knowing I can’t walk or talk at the age of 2 years. My parents have said that to me when I was in high school up to now. Well, they decided visiting the doctor what was really happening about me. And dearly that year 1983, the hospitals before were not that as an advanced hospitals back then. Well, of course, in this present times, we always look our children growing up with care and understand. Love and sincere is also the elements that we have to look our babies or toddlers. And I can’t remembered everything when I was young baby. So sometimes, I try asking my parents what my life is really about before.

 

2. Growing child stage (4-12)

As a parent, we always make proud them as we always want for the best. But sometimes, when we are mad, we blame the children for their own mistakes not doing again. As for the special conditions for the special child, we put them in sincere, love, care and understand. We always bring unconditional love for them.

 

I always asked myself for some reasons why I couldn’t remembered the things in my life back before. It was dark, mushed and pitched-black. Maybe it tells me not to look after my past, but to move forward positively. My family and I used traveling when I was a child. We often went to Los Angeles, Calgary, Vancouver and some places visited in North America. The only I remembered was the People Power during President Ferdinand Marcos was stepping down during the month I was celebrating. One week after, it was really historical. One event after event came forward. And for somehow reasons why, one happiness event I couldn’t remembered anything. It was really pitched-black at the back of my mind. According from my sisters and my parents, they really loved me as they were really comforting me that much. I sometimes gave a look for them as if they wanted to give me something. But I didn’t receive anything. Instead, I have received their unconditional love, sincere, care and understanding. It was the best I could received before.

 

Around when I was 12 years old, it was the during the age stage of my life I could remembered some of the things I was doing. Back before, I was wearing an eyeglasses with my pants up in my tummy. For somehow, I really looked like a nerd. Going to the school everyday, my classmates always teased me a lot what I was wearing about. And the school children also looked at me. It was a feeling that I was a star in the school. That was during my 4th grade. And my classmates always told me that I was always a mischief kid back then. I have used to play around the classroom. Listening was somehow my distraction. Maybe at home when I was young, the people around me used seeing me always happy as I always visited my father’s work. And that time, my father’s work was 2 minutes walk away from our home. It was really that close. It was just that in front of our house.

 

When you realized something different to your special child, you sometimes thought what you could bringing up the special child under your care. In my age before, I stopped, looked, listened, played and sometimes horsed around of the house. Yes, life before was really about the happiness. And sometimes happiness broke when I was given punishment. And that punishment sometimes healed me through the years. I’ve used to have tantrums before. And one tantrum I didn’t remembered when I was still a child.

 

3. Teenage stage(13-19)

Growing up a teenager in your house sometimes have had their own world. This is what we called adolescence. And adolescence sometimes takes time of being having responsibility and discipline under your care, supervision and understanding. Supervising them as you always want to guide them with good manners. Sometimes I have used following my parents’ orders. I brought a lot of issues before when I was still a teenager because sometimes in life took place knowing your life before. You saw your child going to their room and sometimes didn’t want to open conversation with you. Because you always do something busy in your life.

 

Well, in that case, I share something about from me. I’ve used fighting with bullies before but we ended as good friends as well. My parents was always going up to my school from Quezon City where they were working. And my school was in Antipolo. Whenever there was a reason going up, sometimes there was an issue about me and my involved classmate’s parents. I didn’t remember anything really before. Sometimes, I always took up studying as a not-serious education for me. But well, I continued my life was something different from all the children.

 

And there it was one event in my school, that was during my sophomore year (second-year high school). During the recess before our subject Biology started, I was happy that day. As our Biology teacher came inside the classroom, she discussed about the genetics. And during that an hour class, she pointed me to stand up. She have asked me something about the genetics, for some reasons why, maybe I was scolded. Instead, she asked me, “Well, did you know you have Down syndrome?” All of my classmates looked at me and stared as if I knew something about me. Well, some of them really knew about me, but not all took seriously looking at me. One of my classmate was always have a paper, a pencil and an marker making something to draw. He was an comic artist as I could looked at him. Then I answered, “No, ma’am, I don’t know.” Then she asked me to sit down. Then the rest of an hour discussion of Down syndrome made me mysteriously. What was Down syndrome really about and took place on me? Was she talking about if I knew coming from my parents? Did my siblings know about this? What about my relatives? Do they know about me? I asked too many questions in myself. So upon I rode a car inside with my bags inside the trunk, the driver and I never talked about myself. It was clearly that I have my own mind thinking the way teenagers thought about. I waited patiently that afternoon  waiting for my sisters to ride in the car. Then at the moment, they rode in the car after minutes the school bell in Assumption Antipolo rang. At night we came and the dinner was over. I went to my parents’ room and asked them if they knew about the Down syndrome stuff. Then the rest followed at the end of the day.

 

I have a questions about me, for somehow reasons the answers are not meant to be answer. So in the long run of my life after so many years, it finally answers to my questions. Being despite having with Down syndrome doesn’t mean you have to stop and quit your battles right now. You have to fight along with your dreams to your special child. And sometimes dreams could happen after he or she grows up well knowing about his or her self about the conditions. Also being having with disability also don’t make you have to stop. Keep dreaming. And sometimes dreams always build on their own decisions and chances to grow potentially.

4. Adult stage (20-59)

Sometimes in life, some children quit at the prime time in their lives and look already for a job to help family’s needs. I see some of the teenagers right now in their lives. Somehow, why they are quitting and looking on their own lives? And some others are looking to get married right after their high school and settle their own family. I am still single and proud what I have now. If I may looking for a partner, time will come. Some others are still in their prime time who are looking for their career. They are taking up what they have in their dreams. Some dreams are always there, and some others are not meant for you.

 

Back to the topics I am telling about, special children are no longer to be called. They are now consider as special adults as I am now. I’m already three decades old and counting. I am still waiting when I can prove I can live on my own self. But it considers that I am still living under my parents’ house. Somehow, I provide some of the things can be buy in the house, and they return something for my financial benefits. Well not anything can be buy for your special adults. And I miss so much of my childhood friends during my elementary days. Well, some cases like I do have difficult finding a perfect job. Instead I work on my money to grow. For somehow, I realize in the long-run is something have to be exchange. My parents are already in their age for their retirement work. And I don’t have stable financial income and beneficial needs. I always look up from my parents. Sometimes, I have considering to look after myself.

 

Many of you might be shocking reading my article. Well of course, anyone does making on their lives. At the age after their college, they are really looking for the job need for their own income sometimes to help family’s needs or need to build your stable financial. I find difficult in each and every form of shape in life. Well, it’s not easy or difficult to find a job, but you have to keep dreaming your best to be best dreams.

 

5. Retirement age (60+)

This is a bonus stage for everyone who gets old. The more years has to stay, the better it stays in your age. Well not everyone I know are already in the heaven, but some of few I know. I hope I will get old too if I can make it and also have children on my own. One of my relative in Bay, Laguna has also Down syndrome in my father’s side to his mother’s side. I mean my grandmother’s relatives. And somehow I want to help him, it’s just something I can help for return. Because in the world needs help from your hands.

 

I am not that old yet, I am still young and single. I am three decades old already. As a matter of fact, I am enjoying the stage I am now. I am doing whatever it supposes to be enjoying. Writing a lot, doing a lot and sometimes, take time being having responsibility and discipline. Despite my case is not seriously have illness, I wish it won’t happen for me having an illness. If it happens, I won’t get old. In the world with hopes and wishes sometimes it takes your time to understand the situation of your special adult or special children that was. I knew one person when I was still training hoping to be better in training sessions to be better call center agent. Why I enter in training session to become call center agent? Simple. I won’t work enough for a serious condition I have. Barely I can keep myself healthy in a way of living life. I want to improve more better than anybody could achieve. People like us sometimes takes years to understand the situation we have.

 

These are five of human evolution. For somehow, I want something that can relate for something to understand. I always write about literature, sports, entertainment and sometimes, education, and among others. This is much different article I write about. If I may bring up something to be discuss, it would be hard for me write about anything. So instead, I follow my instincts what I should have to write. People are who looking something to be different, try anything that could be possible. Blessings sometimes takes time in a day, month or a year to come. It does have a different shapes. But not along with the knowledge I have. Because this is what I have in my knowledge and I decide something to have sharing you about I have.

40 Lessons for finding strength in hard times

40 LESSONS FOR FINDING STRENGTH IN HARD TIMES – from my friend Angelica Sibayan on Tuesday, July 17, 2012

 

1. You are not what happened to you in the past. – No matter how chaotic the past has been, the future is a clean, fresh, wide open slate. You are not your past habits. You are not your past failures. You are not how others have at one time treated you. You are only who you think you are right now in this moment. You are only what you do right now in this moment.
2. Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t. – You are who you are and you have what you have, right now. And it can’t be that bad, because otherwise you wouldn’t be able to read this. The important thing is simply to find one POSITIVE thought that inspires and helps you move forward. Hold on to it strongly, and focus on it. You may feel like you don’t have much, or anything at all, but you have your mind to inspire you. And that’s really all you need to start moving forward again. Read the How of Happiness.
3. Struggling with problems is a natural part of growing. – Part of living and growing up is experiencing unexpected troubles in life. People lose jobs, get sick and sometimes die in car accidents. When you are younger, and things are going pretty well, this harsh reality can be hard to visualize. The smartest and often times hardest, thing we can do in these kind of situations is to be tempered in our reactions. To want to scream obscenities, but to wiser and more disciplined than that. To remember that emotional rage only makes matters worse. And to remember that tragedies are rarely as bad as they seem, and even when they are, they give us an opportunity to grow stronger.
4. It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. – You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again. And a smile doesn’t always mean a person is happy. Sometimes it simply means they are strong enough to face their problems.
5. Life is fragile, sudden and shorter than it often seems. – There may be not a tomorrow – not for everyone. Right now, someone on Earth is planning for tomorrow without realizing they are going to die today. This is sad but true. Se spend your time wisely today and pause long enough to appreciate it. Every moment you get is a gift. Don’t waste time by dwelling on unhappy things. Spend it on things that move in the direction you want to go.
6. You will fail sometimes. – The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. So get out there and try! Either you succeed or you learn a vital lesson. Win – Win.
7. You have capacity to create your own happiness. – Feelings change, people change, and times keeps rolling. You can hold onto past mistakes or you can create your own happiness. A smile is a choice, not a miracle. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy. True happiness comes from within.
8. Emotionally separate yourself from your problems. – You are far greater than your problems. You are living, breathing human being who is infinitely more complex than all of your individual problems added up together. And that means you’re more powerful than them – you have together. And that means you’re more powerful than them – you have the ability to change them, and to change the way you feel about them.
9. Don’t make a problem bigger than it is. – You should never let one dark cloud cover the entire sky. The sun is always shining on some part of your life. Sometimes you just have to forget how you feel, remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward.
10. Everything that happens is a life lesson. – Everyone you meet, everything you encounter, etc. They are all part of the learning experience we call ‘life.’ Never forget to acknowledge the lesson, especially when things don’t go your way. If you don’t get a job that you wanted or a relationship doesn’t work, it only means something better is out there waiting. And the lesson you just learned is the first step towards it.
11. View every challenge as an educational assignment. – Ask yourself: “What is this situation meant to teach me?” Every situation in our lives has a lesson to teach us. Some of these lessons include: To become stronger. To communicate more clearly. To trust your instincts. To express your love. To forgive. To know when to let it go. To try something new.
12. Things change, but the sun always rises the next day. – The bad news: nothing is permanent. The good news: nothing is permanent.
13. Giving up and moving on are two very different things. – There comes a point when you get tired of chasing everyone and trying to fix everything, but it’s not giving up, and it’s not the end. It’s a new beginning. It’s realizing, finally that you don’t need certain people and things and the drama they bring.
14. Distance yourself from negative people. – Every time you subtract negative from your life you make room for more positive. Life is too short to spend time with people you suck the happiness out of you. Let go of negative people, for they are the greatest destroyers of self confidence and self-esteem. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you.
15. Perfect relationships don’t exist. – There is no such thing as a perfect and ideal relationship. It is how two people deal with the imperfections of a relationship that make it a deal. Read The Road Less Traveled.
16. You must love yourself too. – One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel the matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?
17. Don’t let others make decisions for you. – Sometimes you just have to live not caring what they think of you, shake off the drama, and prove to YOURSELF that you’re better than they think you are.
18. Resentment hurts you, not them. – Always forgive people and move on, even if they never ask for your forgiveness. Don’t do if for them – do it for you. Grudges are a waste of happiness. Get that unnecessary stress out of your life right now.
19. You’re not alone. Everyone has problems. – To lose sleep worrying about a friend. To have trouble picking yourself up after someone lets you down. To feel like less because someone didn’t love you enough to stay. To be afraid to try something new for fear you’ll fail. None of this means you’re dysfunctional or crazy. It means you’re human, and that you need a little time to right yourself. You are not alone. No matter how embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your own situation, there are others out there experiencing the same emotions. When you hear yourself say, “I am all alone,” it is your mind trying to sell you a lie.
20. You still have a lot to be thankful for. – Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of brave people who are overcoming it. Sometimes you have to forget what is gone, appreciate what still remains, and look forward to what is coming next. Henry David Thoreau said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night. You didn’t go to sleep outside. You had a choice what clothes to wear this morning. You hardly broke a sweat today. You didn’t spend a minute in fear. You have access to clean drinking water. You have access to medical care. You have access to the Internet. You can read. Some might say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.
21. Consciously nurture your inner hope. – A loss, a worry, an illness, a dream crushed – no matter how deep your hurt or how high your aspirations, do yourself a favor and pause at least once a day, place your hands over your heart and say aloud, “Hope lives here.”
22. It’s better to be hurt by the truth, than comforted by a lie. – You must see things how they are instead of how you hoped, wished, or expected them to be. It’s always better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie.
23. It’s hard to tell exactly how close you are to success. – Connecting the dots going forward is nearly impossible, but when you look backward it always makes perfect sense. Success is often closer than it seems, and arrives suddenly, when least expect it.
24. Not getting what you want can be a blessing. – Not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of good luck, because it forces you reevaluate things, opening new doors of opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked.
25. Laughter is the best medicine for stress. –  Laugh at yourself often. Find the humor in whatever situation you’re in. Optimism is a happiness magnet. if you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you.
26. Mistakes are important to make. – We have all made mistakes. We have let people take advantage of us, and we have accepted way less than we deserve. But if you think about it, we have learned a lot from our bad choices, and even though there are some things we can never recover and people who will never be sorry, we now know better for next time. We now have more power to shape our future. Remember, failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the choice to get you back up. Get back up! Often times good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
27. Worrying is literally a waste of energy. – Worry will not drain tomorrow of its troubles, it will drain you of your strength today. Read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
28. Even when it’s hard to move, take small steps forward. – Especially in trying times, it is important to continuously push yourself forward. Because momentum is everything! As long as you keep the momentum positive – even if you’re moving at a snail’s pace – you will eventually get to the finish line. So celebrate every step you take today, no matter how small they are. Because every step will lead you farther away from where you were yesterday and closer to where you wan to be tomorrow. Be it a better life or a dream we long to realize, we reach our destinations by taking many, many small steps in the same direction, one at a time.
29. There will always be people who dislike you. – You can’t be everything to everyone. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks differently. So concentrate on doing what you know in your heart is right. What others think and say about you isn’t all that important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.
30. You are better off without some people you though you needed. – The sad truth is, there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you will eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great friends you can always count on.
31. You are ONLY competing against yourself. – When you catch yourself comparing yourself to a colleague, neighbor, friend, or someone famous, stop! Realize that you are different, with different strengths – strengths these other people don’t possess. Take a moment to reflect on all the awesome abilities you have and to be grateful for all the good things in your life.
32. You can’t control everything that happens to you. – But you can control how you react to things. Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects – whether you’re happy or not depends greatly on which aspects you focus on. For instance: Did you catch a head cold? At least it’s only a temporary virus and nothing life- threatening. Did you lose a basketball game? Thankfully you got to spend the afternoon with friends doing something fun and healthy. Did your stock market savings go down? It will bounce back in the long-term. And besides, it’s great that you’ve been diligent and fortunate people enough to save a nest egg of savings when many people are barely making ends meet. You get the idea.
33. Life is NOT easy. – If you expect it to be, you will be perpetually disappoint yourself. Achieving anything worthwhile in like takes effort. So start every morning ready to run farther than you did yesterday and fight harder than you ever have before. Above all, make sure you properly align your efforts with your goals. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.
34. Your future is spotless. – Regardless of how filthy your past has been, your future is still spotless. Don’t start your day with the broken pieces of yesterday. Don’t look back unless it’s a good view. Every day is a fresh start. Each day is a new beginning. Every morning we wake up is the first day of the res of our life. One of the very best ways to get beyond past troubles is to concentrate all of your attention and effort on doing something that your future self will thank you for.
35. You are not trapped; you just need to re-learn a few things. – We all have doubts that make us feel trapped at times. If you doubt your ability to make a life-altering decision, to take on a new chapter in your life, or to fend for yourself after years of being overly-fostered, consider this: Surely if a bird with healthy wings is locked in a cage long enough, she will doubt her ability to fly. You still have your wings, but your muscles are weak. Train them and stretch them slowly. Give yourself a time. You’ll be flying again soon.
36. Everything in life is two-sided. – There is good reason why we can’t expect to feel pleasure without ever feeling pain; joy without ever feeling sorrow; confident without ever feeling fear; calm without ever feeling restless; hope without ever feeling despair: There is no such thing as a one-sided coin in life, with which one can buy a pain-free, trouble-free existence.
37. You always have a choice. – No matter what, there are always at least two options. If you can’t physically change something, you can change the way you think about it. You can sit in the dark, or you can find your inner light and discover powerful pieces of yourself you never knew existed. You can view a crisis as an invitation to learn something new, viewing the shake-up in your outer world as an enlightening opportunity to wake-up your inner world.
38. Let others in when you’re in a dark place. – No, they won’t be always be able to put you out of the dark place you’re in, but the light that spills in when they enter will at least show you which way the door is.
39. If you ask negative questions, you will get negative answers. – There are no positive answers to, “Why me?” “Why didn’t I?” “What if?” etc. Would you allow someone else to ask you the demoralizing questions you sometimes ask yourself? I doubt it. So stop and swap them for questions that push you in a positive direction. For instance, “What have I learned from this experience?” “What do I have control over?” “What can I do right now to move forward?“
40. The end is a new beginning. – Say to yourself: “Dear past, thank you for all the life lessons you have taught me. Dear Future, I am ready now!” Because a great beginning always occurs at the point you thought would be the end of everything.